Seven Simple Solutions for Strengthening your Relationship

Sep 04, 2015


1. Make Your Relationship a Top Priority.

Relationships are like living things: they are either growing or dying.  You must put the time and energy into helping your relationship grow.  When relationships are struggling, it’s often a sign that they have been neglected.  

2. Focus on the Qualities You Love about Your Partner.

Remember why you chose to be in a relationship with this person.  The things you love and respect about them might still be true.  

3.  Find the Time to Express Appreciation.

Often we take it for granted that our partners will know we are grateful for them. Thank your partner whenever they do things to make your life easier or better.

4. Accept that Disappointment Happens in every Relationship.

Two people will always have differences in their expectations.  Disappointment can happen when you have different expectations.  Accept that disappointment happens.  Focus on the parts that have met your expectations.

5. Don’t Play the Blame Game.

No one wins this game!  Even if you are successful in blaming your problem on your partner, you are still stuck with all those problems (and the feelings that come with them).  One way to change this pattern is - take responsibility for your part.   

6. Believe Your Partner Has Good Intentions.

Research has proven once we become convinced of an idea, our brain will ignore information that contradicts what we believe.  Make room for the possibility that your partner can be your greatest ally if you want your relationship to turn around.  

7. Learn How to Be Fully Present.

There is a difference between hearing and listening.  There is a difference between being in the same room as your partner and being present.  Being fully present means that when your partner speaks, you don’t assume you already know what he/she thinks.  

If you need more ideas or support please contact us at Embark Counseling


Darcia DeSalvo

Darcia is a Partner with Embark Counseling Get in touch with her at

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